Self-Care. Such an inviting concept, and yet most of us make little time to care for our health and well-being. After a week of cross-country drives with the boys and house hunting with my soldier, we found a home, trekked on back to Kansas, and were welcomed by gallons of water flooding our rental. Insert song and dance.
This week has reminded me to slow down. I took a pause from blogging to breathe, snuggle with my boys, journal, and regroup—it’s PCS season and that alone has me in full throttle these days. The flood had purpose…I needed the pause. It forced me to hit the breaks, loosen my grip, and roll with everything life was throwing our way…more like roll with the waves of water in my house, but you get where I’m going.
I will say, this slower week also has me reflecting on the team work between my husband and I. We rocked this house hunt y’all! After the last 6 moves, I think we have finally mastered a navigation plan and devised a spreadsheet that works for us and helps narrow the search down to the right home for our family. We also had an AMAZING realtor working with us—what are the chances she’s a military spouse/mom, Miami native, and fellow high school alumni? Me encanta when things line up beautifully!
This week also helped me appreciate people in my life. The in-laws willing to spend their vacation babysitting for us, the mom-neighbor with jokes and a word of encouragement, the fellow military spouse who “gets it” and can be flexible with me and my schedule, the check-ins from loved ones miles away. I can’t wait to be closer to them, and yet I’m equally sad to be moving far from those we’ve met and bonded with here. I’ve said it before, but moving with the military is bittersweet. It’s purging, packing, and planning. It’s sad goodbyes, awkward hellos, and new friends. It’s unknowns and stress, coupled with excitement, future dreams, and memories to be made. Amid all the moving fun, it’s easy to forget one very important thing…ourselves!
In the hustle and bustle of getting everything situated, it’s too easy to use the time we have to plan, plan and plan some more, especially when your spouse is a previous logistician. I had to laugh today when I shared the various school options I’d reviewed and his response?
“Did you create a spreadsheet for all this information?”
Wait a second now! This momma will NOT be creating a spreadsheet for schools. Friends, my spreadsheet efforts are limited to budgeting, grading, and house hunting. My time will however be spent enjoying the wonderful friends we’ve made in Leavenworth, while packing for a DITY move (why a DITY???). This week is also helping me get back on track with my elliptical and gratitude journal–I will need those these next few months. House hunting and moving are emotional! I needed this week at home to flip my attitude, envision this next season, and be intentional about what I do with my time. I also sort of needed that flood to remind me of what matters most: the people I love and my health and well-being. I can’t take care of my family if I’m not taking care of myself. I needed a lifeline and I got it!
When you feel flooded, how do you decompress? What helps you and your military family ride the waves in a healthy and resilient way? Don’t be shy! Share what works—I’m open eyes over here 😊
Happy Easter weekend friends!
p.s. We visited several historic spots and downtown shops during our trip to NC and will blog about some later, but here are a few pics from our adventure.
**Update** I created the spreadsheet. Apparently I write in hieroglyphics. Harmonious marriage friends…doesn’t always have to be about the win.